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after my deployment to Afghanistan , my

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wife got severely depressed and we had

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to deal with that . My youngest son ,

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when he was eight , came to me and told

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me he wanted to die , had a plan um

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and had actually started to

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do his plan and then stopped and came

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and talked to me instead . And then I

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went through a period of time back in

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2017 or so where I I was just going

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through a dark phase and wound up . It

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was actually my daughter who said , you

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know , there's something going on and

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you might need to talk to somebody .

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And it's funny because as much as I

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tell other people , you need to go talk

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to somebody . I I didn't do it because

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I'm a chaplain , right ? People are

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supposed to look at me in a certain way ,

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but I did go talk to somebody which led

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to me getting on some medication for

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about a year and a half . Just just I

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just needed a little help getting over

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this hump and then once I got better ,

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if you will , I was fine . Mental

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health is no different than your

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physical health . So if you break an

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arm , nobody feels guilty about going

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to the doctor and getting your arm set .

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In fact , people would look at you like

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you were crazy if you walked around

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with a broken arm and allowed it to ,

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you know , be all twisted and stuff for

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the rest of your life , mental health

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is the same . It's just we can't see it

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all you're doing is getting your

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emotions reset , your mind reset your

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heart reset and it's no different than

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going and getting a bone set . We have

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a very deep undercurrent of I got a I

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got to be tough , you know , and this

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kind of thing and I think it takes a

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lot of toughness to admit there's

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something going on and for the sake and

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good of everybody . I'm going to go get

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help