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- It's not if a bang
is coming in your life,

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something of big impact in your life;

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it's a matter of when.

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We got to Kirtland Air
Force Base in January 2015

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and served there as a
part of the chapel staff

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and then we went on the family
vacation to Disney World.

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It was actually on that vacation

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that Sasha found a lump in her breast.

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- Right from the time that I was in

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and they do a self-exam
just like with their hands,

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they were already eyebrows raised like,

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"Mm, this doesn't feel right."

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So they sent me downstairs right away

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to get a mammogram and ultrasound done

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but within a week's
time, I had my diagnosis.

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- Probably in that next
week was when we were also,

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we're very upfront with
our kids and very truthful

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and honest with them but
obviously also wanting to be...

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- Sensitive and not just
scare them unnecessarily.

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- [Andy] So we sat down that first week

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and we talked with them

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and we explained that
Mommy had breast cancer

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and that she was gonna
be having chemotherapy

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and surgery and radiation,

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and our second son, Hudson, asked,

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"Mommy, are you gonna die?"

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- Someone had given me advice.

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They said if someone asks or a child asks,

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"Is this going to take your life?"

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that you say that that's not
what the doctors are saying.

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And I think that that
was really good advice

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and met the heart need
that our kids needed.

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After my second treatment,
within a few days,

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is when my hair started to fall out.

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- And I mean, it's a small piece,

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but the power of social media.

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We would get to a day of chemo

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and I would take a
picture of Sasha with her

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and maybe she'd already lost her hair

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and so she was wearing a
really cute little cap,

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and she'd have a blanket
that someone had sent her

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and just say, "Hey, pray for Sasha.

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"Today's her third round of chemo."

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And then throughout the day,
we'd get like 183 messages,

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and I would just read them
to her throughout the day.

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- That fifth round of
chemo because, I mean,

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I felt bad other times and I would pray,

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but I always knew that God was with us

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and that He was seeing us through it

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and that, God forbid, if I did die,

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that He would ultimately be in control

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but thankfully, I wasn't
constantly fearing my death.

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- I had a pastor in
college and what he said,

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"A faith that is forged by being shaken

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"is not easily shaken."

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And I feel like that
has showed itself true

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in Sasha's life and my life.

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Our faith wasn't easily shaken in part

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because our faith had been
forged by the fire of trial.