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- Konnichiwa, I am Chaplain Mark Johnston.

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I'm the 38th Air Defense
Artillery Brigade Chaplain.

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And we're coming to you
today from beautiful,

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as you can see, Sagamihara Park.

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Here in beautiful Sagamihara, Japan.

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I wanted to speak with you
again today about resiliency.

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And talk a little bit today
about self-confidence.

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I know in these days the world

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just tries to beat it out of you.

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But I wanna talk a little bit about it.

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Now I don't want you to
be like the man that,

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he'd gotten in his car and
he was driving to the store

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at the next town over.

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And his wife saw on the
news that on the interstate

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there was a guy going the
wrong way on the interstate.

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So she was concerned

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'cause she knew her
husband was going that way.

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So she called him on his cell phone.

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And I'm sure he answered on the hands free

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as we're supposed to.

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And answered, and she
said, "Honey, be careful.

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"There's some idiot on the wrong side.

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"Going the wrong way on the interstate."

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And he said, "No, there's not just one.

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"There's hundreds of them."

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This guy was not too bright.

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And that's not the kind of self-confidence

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I'm talking about.

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When I was a younger man
and my children were little.

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We were walking one day in the
mall in Somerset, Kentucky.

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Where we lived at that time.

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And I had my oldest's
hand walking in the front.

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And my youngest was in the stroller.

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The oldest was about five
and the youngest about 2 1/2.

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And the youngest he had
long curly blond hair,

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which was just beautiful.

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We didn't have the heart to cut it

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'cause it was so pretty.

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And bright green eyes.

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And this woman came up.

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Walked passed my older son and me.

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And looked at my youngest son and said,

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"That is the prettiest little girl

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"I have ever seen in my life."

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And we said, "Well, thank you.

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"But he's not a little girl.

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"He's just has long hair.

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"He's a little boy."

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And she said, "Well, then he
is the prettiest little boy

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"I've ever seen in my life."

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And my oldest son didn't miss a beat.

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He said, "Hmm, she must not even seen me."

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And all I could think was,

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"I just hope he can
hold on to a little bit

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"of that confidence as he gets older,

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"and the world tries
to beat it out of him."

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Now my children I think
still have confidence.

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And I appreciate that.

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And I've always tried
to instill that in them.

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And one of the ways to do that

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is to give compliments to people.

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When I was a little boy I
was about eight years old.

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And my father can be a very
gruff and direct person,

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which was good for me.

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Not as a child but it is now,

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because I've learned to deal

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with those kind of people through him.

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But one day we were in
Montgomery, Alabama.

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It was in the spring of the year.

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And it was cool outside.

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And so my parents let me sit in the car

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with the windows down.

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It was a different day and age.

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But it was before we were
so scared of everything.

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And I was sitting in the
car, in the backseat,

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eating some boiled peanuts, which I love.

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And I was eating them.

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And as I was eating them I
would put on the floorboard,

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on the floor mat,

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which was this clear plastic thing

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we used to have in cars in the '60s.

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I put each of the peanut hulls down there.

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And when my parents came
back in from the store,

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I just thought it was a good idea.

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I just picked up the mat

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and I just dumped the peanut
shells into the parking lot.

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Well my father saw me do that
and he said, "That was stupid.

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"Now get out and pick
up those peanut shells."

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So I'm crying as an
eight year old would do.

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And I'm cleaning them
up and putting them back

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in the styrofoam cup they came in.

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And I get back in the car and sit.

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And put on my seatbelt
and I'm just crying.

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My dad starts the car and
we start down the road.

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And he got down the road
not even a hundred yards.

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And he pulled off into a parking lot.

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And he put the car in park.

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And he turned all the
way around in the seat

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and he said to me, he said,

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"Mark, I'm sorry that I said
that what you did was stupid.

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"Because you thought that I think

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"you're stupid when I said that.

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"And you're not stupid.

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"You're a smart little boy.

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"I'm sorry I said that.

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"I wish what I'd said was,

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"'This is not our parking lot

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"'and we shouldn't put
those peanut hulls out.'

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"And I should've got out with
you and helped pick them up.

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"I apologize for saying what I said."

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Now I am 58 years old.

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That was 50 years ago when that happened.

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And I have not forgotten it.

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Because a man with confidence

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is able to say to his child, "I'm sorry."

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And if we want to raise our children

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in such a way that they have confidence,

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they will need to know that they're loved,

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that they're always protected,

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that they're disciplined
but it's always with love.

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That's where self-confidence comes from.

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From love and discipline.

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(speaking in foreign language)

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Have a nice day.