WEBVTT 00:05.444 --> 00:07.307 - Bottling it up doesn't help. 00:07.307 --> 00:08.933 You're just putting a cork on it, 00:08.933 --> 00:10.152 because a cork can pop off 00:10.152 --> 00:14.319 and then that's when everything just hits the fan. 00:14.587 --> 00:15.775 - You know, we're all human. 00:15.775 --> 00:17.202 We all go through things. 00:17.202 --> 00:18.331 - You have to be vulnerable because 00:18.331 --> 00:20.492 it's the only way you're going to get help. 00:20.492 --> 00:21.325 - I was feeling like I wasn't good enough. 00:21.325 --> 00:23.658 (sad music) 00:27.246 --> 00:29.709 - [Blonde Lady] When you hear the word suicide, 00:29.709 --> 00:31.792 what pops into your head? 00:32.371 --> 00:35.638 - Hurting and then they have no one around 00:35.638 --> 00:37.579 to express their feelings, 00:37.579 --> 00:39.489 so they kind of just internalize it, 00:39.489 --> 00:41.394 ball it up and it gets to that point 00:41.394 --> 00:42.727 where it breaks. 00:44.311 --> 00:47.644 - I feel like it's a huge domino effect. 00:48.056 --> 00:50.905 The pain that someone may be experiencing 00:50.905 --> 00:54.072 or the stress, them trying to solve it 00:55.985 --> 00:58.985 at their level by taking their life, 00:59.101 --> 01:02.155 you know, it has a huge domino effect 01:02.155 --> 01:03.838 on the people around them. 01:03.838 --> 01:06.850 People tend to kinda bottle themselves up 01:06.850 --> 01:08.365 away from people and especially here 01:08.365 --> 01:11.198 in the military; they tend to feel 01:11.589 --> 01:13.627 like people don't understand. 01:13.627 --> 01:16.452 - Suicide isn't generic, you know, everybody's 01:16.452 --> 01:19.229 signs, everybody's stressors, like even like 01:19.229 --> 01:21.823 the methods that they may choose like to do it, 01:21.823 --> 01:24.033 it's different. It'll be different. 01:24.033 --> 01:25.185 It's not the same thing. 01:25.185 --> 01:27.754 - Suicide is not usually a weak thing to do, 01:27.754 --> 01:29.711 because it takes everything in you 01:29.711 --> 01:30.985 just to say, "I quit." 01:30.985 --> 01:33.568 It could be because death is... 01:33.892 --> 01:35.642 That's the end of it. 01:37.214 --> 01:38.964 - I thought about it. 01:39.497 --> 01:40.702 I'm pretty sure everyone's probably 01:40.702 --> 01:44.214 had that thought cross their mind once or twice before, 01:44.214 --> 01:46.276 but when you really think about it and 01:46.276 --> 01:48.914 you're about to do it, but you get a call 01:48.914 --> 01:50.434 or you get a text message from someone that says 01:50.434 --> 01:54.517 "Hey. Are you okay?" That's when the help starts. 01:55.768 --> 01:59.601 From friends, from family, even acquaintances. 02:00.268 --> 02:04.435 - I have done the pills and I have slit my wrists. 02:04.686 --> 02:06.328 With the pills it just was a fail, 02:06.328 --> 02:09.328 it wasn't, but one time it was a gun 02:09.439 --> 02:12.522 and I was just scared...I was scared. 02:13.049 --> 02:14.646 Part of me, there was that half and half 02:14.646 --> 02:16.777 where I was like it'll be easier. 02:16.777 --> 02:19.354 The other half was like my family; 02:19.354 --> 02:23.521 I don't want to hurt them because I've been through it. 02:24.208 --> 02:27.049 - [Blonde Lady] What do you think the effects of 02:27.049 --> 02:28.882 suicide has on others? 02:29.816 --> 02:32.733 - It's like it's a failure, I mean, 02:33.278 --> 02:35.648 yeah you lost a person, but like 02:35.648 --> 02:36.827 I didn't notice that they were 02:36.827 --> 02:38.570 going through something. 02:38.570 --> 02:40.320 I didn't notice that. 02:41.235 --> 02:42.783 That person that I was close with, 02:42.783 --> 02:46.200 I wasn't able to do anything about it and 02:46.635 --> 02:49.843 it's scary so you start trying to work on 02:49.843 --> 02:52.426 breaking down those barriers because 02:52.426 --> 02:55.843 you know what it's like to lose somebody. 02:56.040 --> 02:58.970 - The guilt, like you said, they weren't enough. 02:58.970 --> 03:01.973 They weren't there to help so they feel guilty 03:01.973 --> 03:04.535 that they weren't, that they didn't have an ear 03:04.535 --> 03:07.137 for you to talk to and express how you feel, 03:07.137 --> 03:08.960 because they may have felt that 03:08.960 --> 03:11.460 you would probably judge them. 03:11.564 --> 03:14.314 Like, "Hey I'm feeling suicidal." 03:14.524 --> 03:16.441 "Ah, you just playing." 03:16.467 --> 03:19.203 Some parents, some friends, they'll do that. 03:19.203 --> 03:21.131 They don't see the importance of 03:21.131 --> 03:23.351 if somebody says their suicidal, 03:23.351 --> 03:26.003 you should take that as they are 03:26.003 --> 03:28.451 going to commit suicide in the next 24 hours. 03:28.451 --> 03:29.853 - [Blonde Lady] What would you do if someone 03:29.853 --> 03:32.934 came to you and said they were thinking about suicide? 03:32.934 --> 03:34.336 How would you handle it? 03:34.336 --> 03:35.280 - They just don't know how it's going to 03:35.280 --> 03:37.308 affect other people and it hurt me to be like, 03:37.308 --> 03:39.653 "I was going to do that to my family. 03:39.653 --> 03:40.554 I was going to put them through that." 03:40.554 --> 03:44.387 So, reach out. There's help. Talk to somebody. 03:44.475 --> 03:47.107 - They may not have anywhere or anybody to vent 03:47.107 --> 03:48.805 to about the issues that they're dealing with, 03:48.805 --> 03:51.242 so even just being near and listening to them 03:51.242 --> 03:53.894 talk about, you know, what's going on 03:53.894 --> 03:55.959 in their lives could help them. 03:55.959 --> 03:59.387 - Patience, patience is key to everything. 03:59.387 --> 04:01.819 Usually when somebody is being alienated 04:01.819 --> 04:04.708 or somebody is being hostile towards somebody 04:04.708 --> 04:06.107 you gotta be like that person to be like, 04:06.107 --> 04:08.318 "Look, I'm here no matter what is going on.", 04:08.318 --> 04:09.830 because there is people like that where 04:09.830 --> 04:11.171 I work at, U.S. Secured Forces. 04:11.171 --> 04:14.008 We're all like, "You know what, if you go to 04:14.008 --> 04:16.445 Mental Health you're a punk. You're weak.", 04:16.445 --> 04:17.733 and it's not like that. 04:17.733 --> 04:18.902 Sometimes we gotta take a knee. 04:18.902 --> 04:20.784 - When I go into my shop I know I can 04:20.784 --> 04:22.964 rely on each and everyone of my guys. 04:22.964 --> 04:24.801 It's not just about work there; 04:24.801 --> 04:26.301 that's my brother. 04:29.043 --> 04:30.228 I hang out with them on the weekends. 04:30.228 --> 04:31.361 They know about my life. 04:31.361 --> 04:33.856 They know about the things that I go through 04:33.856 --> 04:37.336 and just being able to have that in your shop, 04:37.336 --> 04:40.221 with the people that you work with every day, 04:40.221 --> 04:41.165 that will make a... I feel 04:41.165 --> 04:42.859 like that makes a difference. 04:42.859 --> 04:44.757 - I mean, like you don't know what 04:44.757 --> 04:45.590 everybody is going through. 04:45.590 --> 04:46.790 You can't know what everybody's going through 04:46.790 --> 04:49.540 at all times, but you never know. 04:49.892 --> 04:51.945 You helping out could've brought somebody out 04:51.945 --> 04:53.328 that was having a bad day or was having 04:53.328 --> 04:54.845 like a bad year or whatever and they 04:54.845 --> 04:58.272 meet some people that are really good friends 04:58.272 --> 05:00.805 and surround yourself with people that actually 05:00.805 --> 05:02.344 care about you and stuff. 05:02.344 --> 05:03.586 - It's okay to cry. 05:03.586 --> 05:05.014 It's okay to let your feelings out. 05:05.014 --> 05:06.984 It's okay to express yourself, 05:06.984 --> 05:10.041 because if you don't your worst comes to worst, 05:10.041 --> 05:12.958 you try to commit suicide or you do 05:12.958 --> 05:16.125 and if you follow through with it then 05:16.904 --> 05:20.323 all of a sudden it affects everyone around you. 05:20.323 --> 05:22.391 - Even when you're happy, I'm there for you. 05:22.391 --> 05:23.749 Even when you're sad, I'm there for you. 05:23.749 --> 05:27.249 That's the way I feel it's supposed to be. 05:27.291 --> 05:29.791 That's the Air Force I joined.